What I've been saying lately to "if I were you" comments is that, they'd do the exact same thing. And if they believe they wouldn't they've done a poor empathy job.
“Put yourself in their shoes” assumes shoes fit universally. Real empathy is more like: “Acknowledge they’re wearing shoes made for feet unlike yours, walking paths you’ve never trodden.”
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